If you are like most men who need to get their ex girlfriend back, perhaps the biggest difficulty you are dealing with right now is how to overcome the pain and the humiliation of splitting up, especially if she dumped you. It may very well be that at least a part of the reason she decided to call it quits was that you lack sufficient self confidence, which women believe to be extremely important in a man. Whether or not you felt strong before the break up, at the moment you probably believe that you are at your lowest point. Because of this, it can be extremely tempting to want to wear your heart on your sleeve, by which I mean that you want to let her see how badly you feel right now. But this is probably the worst thing you could do, and it will not help you win your ex girlfriend back. In fact, if you do this it will likely make it near impossible to get her back.
I discuss methods for getting back with your ex girlfriend in more detail on my Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back page, which you might want to read now.
So why exactly should it be that low self confidence in a man is such a turn off to women? The fact is, low confidence in the opposite sex, be it a man or a woman, is simply psychologically draining for their partner. Most people have a hard enough time dealing with all the other problems the world presents them. They get beat up and are constantly bombarded by people who go out of their way to make them feel that they aren’t good enough for one thing or the other, or that they don’t have enough in their lives.
It could be that your ex girlfriend is simply flat fed up from having to deal with the stress and strains of normal, everyday life. The last thing she wants is to have to prop you up when she is really looking for your strength and support. In other words, if you display any signs of depression, or you are just in the habit of appearing to be down most of the time, well those feelings are contagious. What she really wants is someone who is going to make her feel great about not just herself, but life in general. So if you want to get her back you must be capable of making her feel good.
If she sees you moping around she is not going to want to spend any time with you. Period. In fact, you will be doing nothing but reminding her about why you two broke up to begin with. So do not kid yourself that presenting a mopey face is going to buy you any sympathy points. This can only come off as a desperate ploy that is virtually certain to result in failure. She will simply see you will as a burden and you will destroy any chance you had of winning her back.
Remember, what she needs is the same thing that you need from a partner - someone who is prepared to help the other person face the challenges of each new day, someone who is going to be strong for them, and who makes them strong, helping to shoulder the weight of life’s problems. What your ex girlfriend needs is a guy that she can face the world with. She needs to see that you are capable of offering that to her. If she can see these qualities in you then she is far more likely to see you as the guy that she needs to have in her life. So, try to live your life with confidence, and even if you cannot win back your ex girlfriend you will ultimately end up being much happier with your life.
Regardless of the outcome, it might be a good idea to check out one of the better men’s books on dating that I have reviewed on my site. For example, if you need to find out how women really think, so that you do not get yourself into the same pickle as you are in now, check out the review on my Fireworks With Females page.
